I went to the grocery store with one goal: cottage cheese.
Simple, right?
Apparently not.
After scanning shelves and doing that awkward double-check lap (you know the one), I gave up. Immediately as one GenZ would usually do, Google search. What’s an alternative to cottage cheese? Ricotta came out. So I thought, hmm why not?
Let me be honest, ricotta isn’t cheap. A small tub cost me around RM22, and I definitely paused for a second before putting it in my cart. But you know.. curiosity won.
And wow… I did not expect this.
(I felt like Remy when he combined cheese & strawberry in the movie Ratatouille)
Somewhere between creamy and fluffy, mild yet rich, ricotta has officially won be over. It feels indulgent but still light enough for breakfast, which is a dangerous combination because now I want it all the time. What I love the most? How easy it is to whip up.
I tried it two ways
– Sweet Option – it tastes like something you’d get at a cafe, but it takes less than 5 minutes to make for realsss
A scoop of ricotta, a drizzle of honey and blueberries with walnuts
– Savory Option
Ricotta on Toast, a pinch of salt, black pepper and a little olive oil. Elevated it with cherry tomatoes and smoked Salmon
I didn’t plan on loving ricotta this much, but here we are. What started as a backup turned into something I now genuinely enjoy. Simple, comforting and just a little indulgent. Maybe not everything needs to go according to plan to turn out right.
On my birthday, February 17th, I did something different.
I visited an old folks’ home. I didn’t know what to expect, but the moment I stepped in, I felt something I hadn’t anticipated: peace.
It wasn’t just about giving; it was about connecting, about sharing a moment of warmth with people who have lived through so much.
That day, they all sang for me. A whole group of elderly residents, their voices soft yet full of life, filling the room with something so simple, yet so deeply touching. It was unexpected, and for a moment, I just stood there, in the middle taking it in. I had come to give, but in that moment, I was the one receiving. Love, kindness, and a sense of belonging in a place I had just walked into.
Today, I returned for my second visit. Unlike the first time, where everything felt new, today felt familiar. I recognized faces, and more importantly, I remembered names. It’s strange how something as small as remembering someone’s name can make a difference. It turns strangers into friends.
I spent time with Maria C today. We played bingo (my first time!), and while the game itself was fun, the best part was just being there, sitting together, sharing conversation and laughter. There was no rush, no need to fill the silence. Just presence.
What surprises me most about this place is how it doesn’t drain me. Usually, social interactions tire me out, but here, it’s different. Here, I feel at peace. Maybe it’s because there are no expectations just moments to share, kindness to give, and stories to listen to.
All thanks to Sister Marie Antoinette, who introduced me to this home. If not for her, I wouldn’t have experienced this quiet joy, this feeling of contentment that lingers even after I leave.
I don’t know how often I’ll visit, but I know I’ll keep coming back. Because sometimes, giving love is exactly what the heart needs.
In a surprising turn of events, the social media giant TikTok has officially shut down, marking the end of an app that redefined how we connect, create, and consume content. For many, TikTok was more than just another social media platform, it was a lifeline during uncertain times, a daily source of laughter, and a mirror reflecting the relatable and often ridiculous moments of life.
Personally, my TikTok journey began during the pandemic, when boredom and isolation drove me to explore the app. Like many others, I spent hours editing dance videos, trying viral recipes, and marveling at the creativity of strangers on the internet. It was a way to escape, to feel connected when the world felt so far apart.
But as life picked up its pace again, my relationship with TikTok changed. I stopped posting as much, no longer crafting videos but scrolling through them during downtime. It became less about creating and more about consuming a quick escape, a source of daily giggles, and a place to find those “OMG, this is so me!” moments to share with friends.
For me, TikTok evolved into a digital newspaper of sorts. It wasn’t just entertainment, it was a platform where trends were born, conversations started, and cultures collided.
From learning how to make dalgona coffee to discovering niche communities I didn’t even know existed, TikTok was a space where curiosity thrived.
Duck video with Adele’s song ‘Someone like you’
A positive reminder to myself and all watching
Now, with its shutdown, I can’t help but wonder: what’s to come next? Will a new app emerge to fill the void, or are we all about to experience a collective detox from the infinite scroll?
As we say goodbye to TikTok, it’s clear the app’s impact will linger. It brought people together in ways that no other platform had before, giving everyone a chance to be seen, heard, and entertained. And while the app may no longer be with us, its legacy lives on in the trends, jokes, and memories it left behind.
What about you? Was TikTok your go-to escape, or are you ready to move on? And if it does come back, what’s your move?
Elevator, buttons and morning air Strangers’ silence makes me wanna take the stairs
The traditional 9-to-5 office job has been a staple of working life for decades, but it’s not a one-size-fits-all solution. Personally, I’ve come to realize that this routine doesn’t suit me. As an introverted woman, I’ve always valued my alone time and the freedom to work independently. Being in an office, confined to a desk for hours on end, just doesn’t align with how I function best. Especially now that my focus has been on my health and trying to manage my asthma and anxiety.
Don’t get me wrong—working alone has its perks. I find I’m more productive and focused when I can work at my own pace without the constant interruptions of office life and the nagging. The solitude allows me to dive deep into projects, think creatively, and get things done. But that doesn’t mean I want to be isolated all the time. I do enjoy the occasional client meeting, where I can step out, have a more personal interaction, and feel connected to the work on a more tangible level. Those one-on-one moments are refreshing and break up the monotony of sitting behind a screen all day.
Sometimes, though, I wonder why women are expected to go the extra mile to push themselves in the workplace. There’s this pressure to climb the corporate ladder and constantly prove ourselves, as if that’s the only way to be seen as successful. Don’t people realize that staying at home is hard work in itself? Managing a household, taking care of senior parents —it’s all so demanding, but society often undervalues that role.
Maybe I’m a bit more traditional in my thinking, but I don’t love that we’re expected to chase the same corporate ambitions to feel accomplished.
I’m comfortable with the idea of stepping back, slowing down, and maybe not feeling the need to compete in the corporate world. But then, with this economy, how does that even work? How does a woman maintain financial independence and support her own lifestyle if she decides not to play the corporate game? It’s a real struggle between wanting to ease the stress and figuring out how to be okay financially.
It’s a tough balance, wanting to live in a way that feels natural and comfortable while still needing to secure your future. At the end of the day, it’s not about hating work—it’s about finding a way to make work fit with your life and values. For me, that might mean letting go of the traditional 9-to-5 or feeling less pressured to “prove” myself. But figuring out how to do that while staying financially stable is a challenge many women face. How do you step down without losing your sense of security?
Life in your mid-20s can feel like walking through a maze without a map.
Not going to lie, most days, I feel so lost and confused. Thinking to myself, am I on the right track? Why don’t I have any friends? Where did I go wrong? —
After coming back home from studying in the States, I found myself back under my parents’ roof working in the family’s business which is not so bad except that my knowledge of it is pretty low. A comforting yet challenging feeling having to balance family expectations with my own dreams and passions in life. Here I was thinking by now I would have a stable relationship with a man hoping to get married. But life took a different turn for me in that arena.
Before returning home, I went through what the kids are calling it these days, “a situationship”. I absolutely hated that. The whole idea of it. After coming out from that toxicity, it left me unsure about dating and relationships as a whole. It wasn’t quite a relationship but more than a friendship for sure but also not a friendship. It was a dark place where I lost myself. Coming home was saving me in a way. After going through a painful period, it did teach me a lot about protecting my heart, setting boundaries and knowing my worth.
In the end, my mid-20s are about becoming the woman I want to be—strong (physically and mentally), independent, and true to myself. It’s about learning from experiences, shaping my own story, and finding happiness in the journey. I’m so glad to say I’ve already started executing those plans I have for myself and taking it one day at a time.
Career | Responsibilities | Family getting Old | Relationships | Bills | Panic
Fashion is not just about the clothes and what people wear but what you are, what you breathe, how the colors and textures make you feel. It’s amazing how much inspiration you can take off from just a walk in the park. At least for a creative individual like me. The one thing I absolutely love to do and find theraputic is heading out to explore the hidden gems of the city.
Recently, a friend brought me to the Lincoln Park Lily Pool which is now called the Alfred Caldwell Lily Pool. A 3 acres serene section located right next to the famous Lincoln Park Zoo. It was such a beautiful, tranquil and quiet place hidden in plain-sight. We sat there in front of the lily pond observing the greens all around us, the temple-like structures and babbling baby waterfall hidden behind. It was serene. Lots of birds. We saw hawks/ falcons in the trees and a sneaky frog peeking out of the pond which was my favorite shot from that day.
It was my first time in years since I’ve used my Canon PowerShot camera. Lost touch but I’m getting back into it thanks to my friend who inspired me to do what you love and I’m loving the results so far – So, I figured, might as well share the photos and reviews with you guys.
Location: 125 W Fullerton Pkwy, Chicago, IL (FREE)
The combination of colors in the photo came out really well. Take a look at the mustard yellow light reflection in the water and how it blends in with the red with touches of algae green surrounding it and of course, Mr. Froggy was the star of the show. Not sure if he’s happy or not but this entire pic reminded me a lot of the oil paintings from the French Impressionist Claude Monet’s ‘Water Lilies’
e x p l o r i n g with a photographer. He was in his zone. Can you feel the texture of his brown feathers? I can! A soft, beautiful velvety coat you have there Mr. ! Lungs of a cloudy day in Chicago, Illinois.
My first summer in Chicago. Exciting and also very curious as to how bad it could get. The National Weather Service (NWS) recently issued a heat advisory in Chicago that’ll go into effect on Tuesday, June 14 at 12:00pm all the way through Wednesday, June 15th at 8:00pm. Be prepared for boiling temperatures they say with a peak index between 105 and 109 degrees. Should I stay home or do I want to go out? If so, I still do want to look fashionably comfortable and I’m sure you want that too! Dressing appropriately offers advantages in any situation. The appropriate attire is essential for any major meeting, wedding, party, or simply summer.
With mercury rising, you’ll want to take precautions to avoid overheating, which is something we’ll have to worry about more and more as the summer progresses.
Here are the best fashion tips for dealing with the scorching heat:
Bring out the hats – You’ll feel hotter as your body absorbs more sun. While you could take an umbrella with you, a more practical and hands-free option is to wear a hat. Switch it up with the good ole bucket hat. The bucket hat is not DEAD! It is still in trend. Spotted Ms Charlette on a beach in a lilac colored bucket hat with cute floral motifs.
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2. Wear breathable and lightweight fabrics – Heavier textiles are more densely woven, trapping heat and restricting airflow, which is a concern because airflow is what transports heat energy from our bodies. When you sweat and it evaporates, the heat from your body is transferred to the breeze. However, in order for sweat to do its job, airflow is required so that evaporation can transpire.
Madras fabric is typically made of cotton and has a light, open weave, making it ideal for the summer. Seersucker is also a smart choice because the fabrics unique rippling prevents it from sticking to the skin, enabling air to circulate. Fabrics made of linen and hemp are also more loosely woven, making them more breathable.
3. Choose light colors instead of dark or black – The darker your clothes are, the more light they will absorb and turn into heat. Lighter tones, on the other hand, reflect that energy away. Long story short, wear white clothes to keep cool.
4. Keep it loose on the silhouette– Clothes that fit close to the body might be your vibe, but it’s not the best option for staying cool in the heat. Slim-fitting clothes don’t allow air to flow as much as loose clothing. They can also absorb your sweat, leaving you walking around with damp clothes. Wider silhouettes don’t cling to the skin as easily, allowing room for air to pass over the skin.
5. Say no to sleeves! – This is also a good method to keep cool by flaunting your arms. Show them off gurl! You are not required to wear long sleeve tops that cover your entire body. For a more summery style, try a sleeveless vest or dress, or even simply a short-sleeved shirt. You should maintain a sophisticated appearance without overheating. You can always protect yourself from the sun by wearing a small scarf over your shoulders and arms. Isabelle Gougeinheim offers great lightweight scarves! Check her out @isabellegougenheim
Looking for a way to add some color into your fall/winter wardrobe? A fabulous scarf is all you need to elevate your outfit. From just an average to a chic look within seconds!
I visited the Renegade Craft weekend market at Wicker Park in Chicago couple of weeks back where I had the pleasure of meeting the Incroyable Isabelle Gougenheim who is a french designer for her own brand ‘Isabelle Gougeinheim Designs’. She is based in Chicago but all of her art works are from Italy, so you know for sure that there is quality!
Hailing from the fashion capital of the world, France, Isabelle Gougenheim is known for her soft, luxurious silk, and eye-catching scarves made in Italy which is inspired by everyday life, travel, graffiti and unusual art on the streets. Isabelle Gougenheim scarf feels incredibly soft with a combination of silk, cashmere and modal fabrics.
‘AMOUR’ (2021-2022 Fall/Winter collection) $185Click & Follow her on Instagram!
Picture yourself first time being out of the house, lying down on a beach sunbathing and working on that tan with a margarita in your hand. The fresh smell of salt in the air and sand in between your toes. All you want to do is serve killer looks brighter than the sun. Here’s what’s hot
Latest trends for summer 2021
First, bucket hats are here to stay! Anything with bright colors is a must-have for every island girl. Remember, you want to make it pop.
Kylie Jenner does it best here with a two piece gold crochet string bikini covered in pearls. This cotton crochet knit top will have people’s heads turning. Give it a summer retro spin by choosing to wear it with funky patterns and sleeveless styles. Remember making these DIY friendship bracelets as a kid? Hope you still have them lying around in your room somewhere because these rainbowbeaded necklaces are the new everyday summer jewellery. The beaded necklace style this year shows the excitement of an upcoming year full of exciting moments and perhaps possible getaways. Roll out of bed looking like a stylish island queen. These two matching sets make everyday on-the-go dressing seriously easy. Play around with different prints from stripes to gingham to cow prints! Sunnies are an essential for ALL summers The beauty of South East AsiaWatermelon Sugar inspired nails! Thank you Harry StylesThat’s all for now. Have fun in the sun! xoxo Island Girl Island In The Sun by Weezer – that’s the vibe
Want to move away from fast fashion and build a more sustainable wardrobe but have no idea where to start?
If you’re not super into fashion you may not know how to find independent, smaller, homegrown brands. This is where I recommend looking at retailers that have lots of brands. Moda Operandi, Net-A-Porter, Garmentory, Intermix. Don’t worry if you can’t afford them, just browse at the clothes.
When you see something you like, go on Instagram and follow that designer. Instagram will recommend other similar designers, follow them too. Use your explore page as well to find reputable brands and companies.
Eventually you’re gonna have lots of brands you like, but not necessarily can afford. But now you need to look at what you like. For instance, if your see yourself liking dramatic sleeves or statement collars, take note.
Take your measurements. Do not buy from any site that doesn’t have a consistent sizing chart. Ideally they have individual garment measurements too but not always. Do not just guess at your size. That’s how you end up unsatisfied with you purchase.
Remember a lot of brands are also on Afterpay, so if you stick to buying 1-2 items a time you can start investing in better pieces in instalments. Not crazy expensive, but I find a good spot for quality is usually around $50-$150 with smaller brands.
Now just Google. When my research lead me to want a denim skirt I just googled it and set my price range. The skirt I ultimately went with was from ZARA. Isn’t that fast fashion? Yes, but it was a thoughtful purchase. That is really the point of a sustainable choice. The more you look at your Instagram fedd and things you’ve saved the more you can pinpoint your style. Search for those specific qualities. Regardless of the price point, stick to only buying 1-2 items at once that you really love or that fill a gap in your wardrobe. You’ll also start getting ads for smaller brands. Follow what you like. Bookmark items, save them to folders. When you’re ready to invest, you have a feed full of stuff you like and ideas where to find it. Go forth and prosper.
With regards to vintage, I use Etsy exclusively. I have saved searches for things/brands I want (gold belts, silk blouses, etc.) and I know my measurements. With vintage, NEVER go by the size tag. The seller should list measurements.
Remember, unethical choices are hard to avoid. But being more intentional with what you buy will at least lead you to a wardrobe where you never “have nothing to wear” and get you out of the vicious fast fashion cycle of buy, toss, re-buy that’s burying us in all ways. And yes, this takes time, so be patient. Be mindful. Be an outfit repeater. Just don’t be wasteful. Jumping on every trend without knowing what you like is wasteful.
Finding actualy ethical and sustaibale brands is actually even easier, just go on GoodonYou.eco https://goodonyou.eco/colourful-clothing-brands/ and search for what you want and read their ratings. Follow them on Instagram, get recommended similar and ALWAYS read their About, Shipping and FAQ pages to avoid scams. I can already hear someone saying “this is a lot of work just to buy clothes” well let me tell you, YES IT IS. Buying hours worth of designs, development and labor should take time. Clothes are not disposable goods, they are how you navigate the world. So be thoughtful when buying no matter what, whether that’s thrifting, high end, or fast fashion or anything else.
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